The term Men who have sex with men (MSM) is again extremely unsuitable for Straight men who desire men sexually. The first reason is of course, because the term is also used for Queers who have sex with men, and so the root of the problem is the same as that with the terms 'gay' or 'homosexuality'.
The second problem is that most straight men either keep off totally from receptive anal/ oral sex with men or don't acknowledge a desire for it, even if they have it -- it is because of the age old notions of these acts being 'queer'. Many genuinely don't have an interest in it. MSM on the other hand, just like 'homosexuality' is strongly linked with act of receptive anal/oral sex -- at least, it doesn't distinguish between receptive anal/ oral sex and the penetrative one, making the identity immensely stigmatized for straight men.
But the third problem, and no less important, is that most straight men, when they have sex with another man, do it in an intimate, monogamous (as far as men are concerned) and emotional bond. The term MSM signifies promiscuity of the kind prevalent in the 'gay' world. These are not men who seek sex with differet men. They are not prone to HIV/AIDS or STDS common with MSMs. So, giving them the same identity can cause a number of unwarranted stigmas to straight men who desire a male lover... which force them to hide, reject or suppress their sexual feelings for men.
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