Stigma about 'Queer' now shifted to liking men

A 100 years ago, to call someone a 'queer' was to challenge his manhood, and a man's inability to remove that dishonour by proving he is not queer or by taking on the one who said that, even if he had to kill the guy... the man would stand to lose his manhood. (Women would not dare to say it, and if they did, they'd easily be considered 'whores'). Today, the word for Queer is 'Gay' and it means exactly the same to men -- to be called 'gay' is to rob one of one's manhood. Yet gays -- hiding behind the formal definition of themselves, which is silent about the gender part, and calls themselves 'men' (who like men) -- seem to be blissfully unaware of any such connotations of their identity.