West confuses Gender with Sexual Orientation as a conspiracy against men

The West confuses Gender with Sexual Orientation... Masculine male Gender with Heterosexuality, and Feminine male gender with 'homosexuality' ... that is why it has changed the traditional "man" identity into 'heterosexual' identity (straight), and the "Third Sex/ Queer" identity into the 'homosexual' identity.

This confusion has been deliberately created by the Forces of Heterosexualization, by unacknowledging Gender as a natural trait, (ascribing it to mere social roles), and then going on to explain the gender differences between masculine and feminine males in terms of 'sexual orientation' -- the masculine males as 'heterosexuals', and the feminine males as 'homosexuals'.

This amounts to calling masculine as 'straight' and feminine as 'gay', (and this is why the 'gay' identity is unsuitable for masculine males who like men)

For the Forces of Heterosexualization, to create this confusion was difficult but not impossible because, the groundwork for this was already done through thousands of years of tying manhood with reproductive sex with women (although not heterosexuality as such), and at least two thousand five hundred years of tying queerhood/ effeminacy/ third sex with receptive anal sex (though not a sexual interest in men as such). To create this confusion required a huge social investment that was made possible only through the gains of industrialization, upon which the forces of heterosexualization had full control.

Eventhough the Western society and especially the Forces of Heterosexualization (and that includes the real gays, i.e. who fit in the 'gay' identity) insist on using the formal definitions that create confusion, in practice there are a number of evidences that the term straight is actually used for "masculine" and not necessarily 'heterosexual'... while the term 'gay' is actually used interchangeably for 'feminine' and not necessarily 'homosexual'. Examples are the concepts of "straight acting" (which mean masculine-acting, and not heterosexual acting) and "Queer heterosexual" (which means feminine heterosexual, not homosexual-heterosexual -- which is absurd). Similarly, a very common phrase in the Western world, used by gays themselves is, "he looks so 'gay'", which is meant as "he looks as if he is effeminate", and not that "he looks as if he likes men". Many gays complain that they don't like other gays wearing their gayness on the sleeve. What they're objecting to, in fact, is wearing their 'femininity' on the sleeve, and not their 'sexual attraction for men'. These are just confused as 'one' by the gays.

These double standards and befooling people with confusing identities suit the gays (i.e. queers who like men) perfectly well, since they are one of the biggest beneficiaries of the homosexualization of man-man love -- an integral part of a society's heterosexualization. But, it is in the interest of the masculine gendered males to use the actual definition of 'gay' and 'straight'. And these are:

1. Straight: A masculine gendered male, irrespective of sexual preferences.
2. Gay: A feminine gendered male, irrespective of sexual preferences.

You can see that to use these real definitions, you have to rebel against the concept of sexual orientation, to reject it altogether.

The 'heterosexual(ized)' straight men would be too happy with this definition, just like the non-heterosexualized straights, although, in the beginning, they may not have the courage to acknowledge their support -- again for the fear of being labelled 'gay'. But eventually, they will be the biggest beneficiaries of using these definitions for what they are, for they will be liberated from compulsory heterosexuality and foregoing their same-sex needs, in order to be 'one of the guys'.

Feminine sexuality for men is essentially different from masculine sexuality for men

Gay is not about any male sexuality for men... its about feminine male sexuality for men. And feminine male sexuality for men is much more different from masculine male sexuality for men than masculine male sexuality is different from masculine male sexuality for women. The primary differentiation is between masculine male sexuality and feminine male sexuality. Masculine male sexuality for men and women often exist in the same individual. You can't divide the individual. On the other hand, masculine and feminine males are essentially different people, with different sexualities, whether it is towards men or women. This principle is followed by the Western heterosexual societies for 'heterosexuals' (as signified by not allowing queer heterosexuals to be part of the straight identity)  but not for straight men who own up to like men.

Masculine male's and feminine males sexual need for men are different in every respect

Homosexuals see their desire to be 'women' (in various degrees) as an integral part of their liking men. To be fair to them, their sexuality for men is intricately linked with their feminine gender, and is indeed indistinguishable from it.

However, what gays don't realise (in traditional societies gays know that pretty well) is that masculine gendered males do not have a desire to be women, and when they like other men, they don't see themselves as women at all. Liking men does not fulfill their femininity, but enhances their manhood (at least, if it weren't for social femininity forcefully imposed on them by the heterosexualized society). for masculine gendered, or normal or regular or straight males, their sexuality for men is intricately linked with their masculinity and manhood, and is indistinguishable from the latter.

In this respect, Sexuality and Gender are not separate but intricately linked with each other, and quite indistinguishable from each other. However, not in the way that the concept of 'sexual orientation' prescribes.

Now, as we have seen, masculine gendered male's need and desire for other men (a combination of gender and sexuality) is totally different from a feminine male's sexual desire for men (again a combination of gender and sexuality). It is totally wrong to classify both of these two different sexual desires/ gender into one head as 'homosexuality' through the manipulative system of sexual orientation. Studying and stereotyping both of these using the third gender (feminine model) completely distorts nature of men's sexual need for men.

STRAIGHT MEANS NORMAL, NOT HETEROSEXUAL

STRAIGHT means 'normal' in any context... and straight is used not only in the case of 'sexual identity' but in many different contexts, and everywhere its meaning is 'normal. 

Now its just so that the Western society and Gays specifically have defined the 'normal', 'regular' guy as 'heterosexual'. Does this mean that they are really heterosexual, at least exclusively heterosexual -- all or even a majority of them? Considering, that there is such immense pressure on 'normal', 'regular' guys to be heterosexual and to prove a repulsion towards male eroticism or intimacy with men, how can you be sure that the straight heterosexuality is not a mask put on to keep their 'normal', 'regular' status. In a world, where sex with women means social power, status and manhood, and a place in men's spaces, and a man is under immense pressure to prove his heterosexuality in order to be counted as 'normal' and 'regular', is it too 'wierd' to suspect that a lot of this heterosexuality may be fake? Especially, when there are strong evidences from non-Western societies -- and now, even from the Western world. 

You have to understand that the non-gays have such immense need to define themselves in a manner away from teh gays --- because of the ancient hatred of queers --- that they would give up anything that the society associates with the queers. 

Therefore, when the queers started to be defined as 'men who like men', the (straight) men gave up sexual desire for men altogether, at least, publicly. Earlier, when queer was defined as effeminate males who had receptive anal/ oral sex, Men had given up 'passive' sex altogether, at least publicly and would disown any interest in being penetrated. But they had no shame or qualms in accepting to penetrate a man or a queer.

Gender is a biological concept (and not social) distinct from sex

The Traditional Western society and its science, because of its Christian influence, considers Sex and Gender to be synonymous. The 'progressive' thought in the West seeks to oppose this belief by claiming that Gender is a social construct that has nothing to do with nature. They claim Gender is nothing but a set of arbitrarily defined gender roles ascribed to the male and female sex by different societies.

Thus both the traditional and progressive school of thoughts in the West consider Gender to be not a natural trait distinct from 'Sex'.

My contention is that both these schools of thought are essentially wrong, and have led to several faulty concepts in the West on human gender and sexuality.

The contemporary and ancient non-Western societies, as well as pre-modern West acknowledged Gender as a natural/ biological trait distinct from 'sex'. Gender in this respect is defined as the 'inner sex' of a person (or inner sense of being male or female) irrespective of his or her 'outer sex'. Sex of a person in this case refers to his or her outer sexual organs.

Thus a person born male could have a strong inner sense of being a female and so his Gender becomes feminine. This femininity doesn't need to be extreme... it could well be in different degrees.

Similarly a person born female could have a masculine 'inner sex' or Gender.

The Gender identity of a person cannot be decided just by his or her outer sex. The Gender identity is the basic identity of a person and is determined by the combination of 'Sex' (outer sex) and 'Gender' (Inner Sex). 

All non-Western societies classify their populations and social spaces/ identities based on these Gender identities into at least three distinct Genders:

1. Man: i.e. a predominantly masculine gendered male
2. Woman: i.e. a predominantly feminine gendered female
3. Third Gender (People who are partly male and partly female; Queer): Hermaphrodites, intersexed people, feminine gendered males and masculine gendered females.

Other societies (like the Balinese society) have as many as six different human genders.

These identities don't have anything to do with 'sexual orientation' of people.

The West confuses Gender identity with sexuality and classifies its population into a wierd combination of Gender and what it calls 'sexual orientation'. What is more of a concern that through the process of Globalization and its economic and technological might, the West imposes this invalid classification on the non-Western societies, which is nothing short of modern imperialism. It's a deliberate confusion created by the Forces of Heterosexualization, in order to misrepresent and misclassify man to man sexual instincts in order to discourage them.

Western science considers male femininity to be a 'disorder' and 'abnormality' not in the natural scheme of things. Female masculinity is better tolerated.

I feel there is a strong need for the West to learn from other cultures and broaden and improve some of its basic beliefs around human gender and sexuality.

Difference between Gay sexuality for men and Straight sexuality for men

The main difference between a Gay's sexuality for men and a man's sexuality for men is Gender. Let me explain this for a layman.

A man (or a straight man, if you please), when he desires a man (even if straight men don't do it openly because of the societal pressures), like him as a man -- that is they think of them as a man liking another man. This doesn't make them feel any different from other men, and he doesn't want another identity from other straight men for that. This is beside the point that all straight men have a strong sexual need for other men.

When a Gay likes another man, he does it so thinking he is a woman liking a man. In western societies he is made to think that his liking for men flows from his femininity, but that is basically wrong, because more than 90% of feminine or queer males are into women rather than men.
The Gay feels he is different from other men whom he calls 'straight'. Now, in a society which confuses gender with sexuality, he thinks it is because of his sexuality for him (which is termed as 'homosexuality', when actually its 'heterosexuality' because he is seeking a masculine man, when he himself is feminine).
Also, just like in India, feminine males don't think of themselves as 'women' even though they feel like women, they have a different identity -- third gender, so they think of themselves as a distinct gender from men and women. Likewise, gays too feel like they're women, but consider themselves a distinct identity from both men and women, which they identify as 'gay' or 'homosexual' (i.e. they wrongly explain this difference in terms of 'sexual orientation').
This is the reason, straight men don't identify with the concept of 'homosexuality' or with 'homosexuals' or with gays -- even when they themselves don't know the reason, they instinctively rather fight with their sexual feelings for men, rather than be considered 'homosexual'.
The concept of 'homosexuality' has integral links with male femininity, so homosexuality, although defined as a 'man's sexual feelings for men', actually means a 'queer's sexual feeling for men'. And so it can't be used to describe a man's sexual feelings for men (or a straight's sexual feeling for men), even if technically it fits the description. Just like, if you start calling 'sun' as the 'moon', then the actual 'moon' cannot be called 'moon' anymore, because then it becomes problematic. And in the case of gays, it is thousands times more problematic because of the stigma attached to male femininity (queerness).
Also, although the Western society says gender is not important, its only outer sex that is important, the fact is that most gays look for 'straight' men or at least 'straight-acting' men for sex -- (which means masculine acting, not really someone who pretends to be into women). And they do complain that there are hardly any gays who are good enough 'straight-acting'. Because, acting cannot be as good as the real thing.

Sex and Gender identity

It looks like Western scholars have long said, what we have been saying here, only the Western society chose to ignore it:

One’s “sex” is determined by one’s anatomy, by one’s genitalia. On this basis
persons are declared male or female at birth.
One’s “gender identity” refers to one’s inner sense of one’s sexuality, to one’s
experience of oneself as male or female. John Money asserts:
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David Halperin, One Hundred Years of Homosexuality (New York: Routledge, 1990) 15.
Ibid.
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Because sex differences are not only genitally sexual, although they may be sec-
ondarily derived from the procreative organs, I found a need some thirty years
ago for a word under which to classify them. That word, which has now become
accepted into language, is gender. Everyone has a gender identity/role, one part
of which is one’s genital or genitosexual gender identity/role....the masculinity
and/orfemininityofyourgenderroleisliketheoutsideofarevolvingglobethat
everyone can observe and read the meaning of. Inside the globe are the private
workings of your gender identity.
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It is possible to be an “anatomical” male and have a female gender identity or
vice versa, as is the case for transsexuals.
One’s “gender role” is determined by the complex interaction between one’s
sex and the culture’s determination of what is expected of or appropriate for
women or men to be and do. On this basis men and women are said to be mascu-
line or feminine. For example, it is acceptable for an anatomical female who under-
stands herself to be a woman to wear traditional men’s clothes, i.e., trousers. In the
United States such is regularly the case. It is not usually acceptable for an anatomi-
cal male who understands himself to be a man to wear traditional women’s
clothes, i.e., skirts. In the United States such a person is a cross-dresser; in Scotland
he may be in traditional garb—a kilt.