Why is 'Lesbian' not so much stigmatized for women in heterosexual societies

1. Because the heterosexual society is not interested in controlling female sexuality. It wants to give women as much freedom as possible. It wants females to use their sexuality as a power to gain social control over men, and lesbian only adds to it.

2. Because, masculinity in females is not really stigmatised, especially in a heterosexual society its encouraged.

3. Because, women are not really bannished from the women's space the way men are banished into the gay space. There is no history or tradition of women been banished from the women's space, the way it is for men. The third sex space has been abolished even for females who are actually third gender (i.e. masculine women of whatever sexuality), so there's no question of real (feminine) women being isolated and banished wrongly into the third sex space, as masculine men are when they show interest in males. So, that deep rooted fear is not there.

4. Womanhood is not politicised and manipulated. And there's no great value attached to womanhood, the way it is attached to manhood. Women don't have to pass gruesome 'womanhood' tests, the way men have to. You cannot lose 'womanhood' the way you can lose 'manhood'.

5. Child bearing and rearing is the basic drive of women and they don't have to be forced into it, so, the society doesn't have any mechanisms to force women to reproduce. Hence, there has been no such deep-rooted conspiracy against women, as there exists against men to break women from women, neither is bonds, sexual or otherwise as basic a drive for women as (sexual) bonding with men is for men.

6. The heterosexual society, spreads the misinformation, that while amongst men a sexual interest in other men is rare, and only occurs in 'different' (read queer) males, it is much more common and normal in women. In this way, its creating space for women to like other women, without losing their 'woman' identity.