First hand experience of Heterosexualised India for the first time

They'd created such an intense pressure to be heterosexual, to date girls, and they have also created such hostility towards male intimacy -- that its no wonder that a small 'gay' identity is now emerging, for men who just find totally left out from the mainstream male space and can't cope with the pressures.

However, it is a stark truth, more than in the West, that the gay space is an unmanly, undignified, third sex space... and most men would rather suppress their sexual need and need for intimacy than take up this space and identity -- or they may use it secretly, without taking on the identity.

Therefore in the end, its predominantly the queer male (that is the third gender, effeminate male) who likes men, who actively and happily takes up the gay identity.
And its the same in the West.