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what say thou??
Jul 25, 2009
i for once can never understand the concept of love and couple in college level.dating is fine.but the way they do it is sick.anywaystheres a dark alleyway that connects my house to the main road.very rarely used and has high buildings on both sides.in short ideal for our "couples" to romance.so i find one of my college couples standing there two days back.i dint care especially since the girl was not great looking.and then yesterday i saw them again in the evening there.both days they just stood there and spoke.today i saw them in the afternoon about 1pm.and four hours later they are still standing there!! no seriously.. four hours how can you stand in a lifeless place??only our "couples " could do that.
i always wondered what do couples have to speak hours and hours over the fone and in straight.i mean yeah let them start off with i got in the morning,brushed using close up paste,mom made idli,i put red jetti so on and so forth.let them give running commentary till what they are doing right now.but even then how can they speak for so long?.all these things at the maximum will take a couple of hours to speak about .what do they speak after that??hmmm.. yeah tell.. what are you doing..nothing..tell something..what tell something..something..ok something..hahaha ur very funny..thevdiya pasanga.give me a break. calls after calls,beaches,cinema,malls,college canteen,shady places .. every fucking spot.they just stand and talk. no seriously what do they talk?? i could never imagine talking for more than an hour or two.thats to say the most interesting subject with the most knowledgeable and sweetest person you can find.i would kill to know how others talk for so long and yet so pointless??i have heard love is blind.is it deaf too??
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Monday, August 31, 2009
Fear, hostility and anxiety helps in suppressing sexual desire for men
Just now there's a sexual counselling programme on Care World channel, where a caller asked that his wife doesn't want to have sex after getting pregnant.
The doctor said, although, the libido of the woman actually increases once she gets pregnant, however, in our country because women have a strong fear and anxiety that sex at this time may harm the foetus, this makes their libido comes down.
If negative feelings can make make changes in sexual desire, then it stands to reason that all that hostility, and the heavy price that is extracted of men for giving space to their sexual feelings for men, that causes immense fear and anxiety in them, will make their sexuality for men decrease several folds, thus paving the way for diverting this sexual libido for men into women (where it is not only allowed but promoted and awarded), as part of the heterosexualization process.
The doctor said, although, the libido of the woman actually increases once she gets pregnant, however, in our country because women have a strong fear and anxiety that sex at this time may harm the foetus, this makes their libido comes down.
If negative feelings can make make changes in sexual desire, then it stands to reason that all that hostility, and the heavy price that is extracted of men for giving space to their sexual feelings for men, that causes immense fear and anxiety in them, will make their sexuality for men decrease several folds, thus paving the way for diverting this sexual libido for men into women (where it is not only allowed but promoted and awarded), as part of the heterosexualization process.
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
The heterosexual society has made a complex mechanism to demasculinize men who log on to their sexuality for men, and don't respond to the social mechanisms meant to divert the male sexual desire for men towards women.
This process of demasculinization is formalized in the form of a gay identity that is originally the third sex identity redefined by a society meant to deny manhood to men who own up their desire for men, as a "man who like man" identity.
Gay stands for demasculinization of men.
This process of demasculinization is formalized in the form of a gay identity that is originally the third sex identity redefined by a society meant to deny manhood to men who own up their desire for men, as a "man who like man" identity.
Gay stands for demasculinization of men.
Friday, August 7, 2009
What is wrong with 'gay'?
What is wrong with gay is that although, its defined as "men who like men", biologically, socially and historically, it is about being 'third gender that likes men' not "men who like men".
Unless you negate the existence of third genders as a valid and separate entity on their own, you cannot mix 'men' with 'third genders' on the pretext that they both like men.
Afterall, the same western society separates 'queer heterosexuals' with 'gays' (LGBT), and not with straights, making it amply clear that it does make a distinction between 'men' and 'third genders' who like women.
Unless you negate the existence of third genders as a valid and separate entity on their own, you cannot mix 'men' with 'third genders' on the pretext that they both like men.
Afterall, the same western society separates 'queer heterosexuals' with 'gays' (LGBT), and not with straights, making it amply clear that it does make a distinction between 'men' and 'third genders' who like women.
Friday, July 24, 2009
Gender determines who you are, not sexuality
MASCULINITY AND FEMININITY ARE IMPORTANT
The homo-hetero division between men is baseless and invalid.
Men can't be divided socially on the basis of what and who they like in bed. It cannot define your identity. Just like men can't be divided socially on the basis of what you like to eat or drink, or what kind of entertainment you like.
Men can only be divided on the basis of who they are, i.e., what their gender identity is. And there are only two kinds of gender identities for men: Men with male gender identity, and men with female gender identity. That is the only biological, historical and practical distinction between men.
What you like or enjoy can never decide who you are socially. Only what you are (masculine or feminine) can decide your social identity.
Especially, when almost all males are open to sexuality with men, this homo-hetero division becomes pointless, unless the truth is distorted.
Gender orientation is the main difference that divides males, not sexual orientation.
The homo-hetero division has become so important and valid only because the society has artificially tied gender (which is what is so important)to sexuality. So, manhood is tied to heterosexuality and feminine gender is tied to homosexuality.
It's the confusion created by the western society between gender and sexuality that makes sexuality so important in the west.
When people who grow up in a society divided on the basis of homo-hetero relate to this division, they're actually relating to it as a 'gender' division, not sexual division. They are responding to the manhood artificially hidden in heterosexuality and the third gender artificially hidden in homosexuality.
And that is what is the source behind immense power attached to liking women, and the immense stigma attached to liking men in western societies is all about -- gender, not the sexual preference itself.
And the fact is that inspite of all this social politics of manhood -- of confusing gender with sexuality in order to control men's sexuality -- the truth is that still, in the straight space, masculine males who own up their sexuality for men enjoy a tacit approval and inclusion, while its the effeminate males who are excluded and persecuted -- often whether they like men or women.
And yet, the truth is that, biologically and historically, real natural masculinity is inherently tied with sexual-emotional bonds between men -- (not between gays, who are third gender (so let's rephrase it for the western society, as "with sexual-emotional bonds between straight men), and not just sex but the long lasting emotional and social bonding that results from it. While, its contact with women that queers men. And that is why all masculine cultures abhor this contact, apart from what is needed for procreation.
So, gender has a connection with sexuality (although not so strict), but its exactly the opposite of what is portrayed in the west.
We have come a long way from our natural manhood -- from how it occurs in nature and what the unnatural, western society has made of it -- totally opposite.
The homo-hetero division between men is baseless and invalid.
Men can't be divided socially on the basis of what and who they like in bed. It cannot define your identity. Just like men can't be divided socially on the basis of what you like to eat or drink, or what kind of entertainment you like.
Men can only be divided on the basis of who they are, i.e., what their gender identity is. And there are only two kinds of gender identities for men: Men with male gender identity, and men with female gender identity. That is the only biological, historical and practical distinction between men.
What you like or enjoy can never decide who you are socially. Only what you are (masculine or feminine) can decide your social identity.
Especially, when almost all males are open to sexuality with men, this homo-hetero division becomes pointless, unless the truth is distorted.
Gender orientation is the main difference that divides males, not sexual orientation.
The homo-hetero division has become so important and valid only because the society has artificially tied gender (which is what is so important)to sexuality. So, manhood is tied to heterosexuality and feminine gender is tied to homosexuality.
It's the confusion created by the western society between gender and sexuality that makes sexuality so important in the west.
When people who grow up in a society divided on the basis of homo-hetero relate to this division, they're actually relating to it as a 'gender' division, not sexual division. They are responding to the manhood artificially hidden in heterosexuality and the third gender artificially hidden in homosexuality.
And that is what is the source behind immense power attached to liking women, and the immense stigma attached to liking men in western societies is all about -- gender, not the sexual preference itself.
And the fact is that inspite of all this social politics of manhood -- of confusing gender with sexuality in order to control men's sexuality -- the truth is that still, in the straight space, masculine males who own up their sexuality for men enjoy a tacit approval and inclusion, while its the effeminate males who are excluded and persecuted -- often whether they like men or women.
And yet, the truth is that, biologically and historically, real natural masculinity is inherently tied with sexual-emotional bonds between men -- (not between gays, who are third gender (so let's rephrase it for the western society, as "with sexual-emotional bonds between straight men), and not just sex but the long lasting emotional and social bonding that results from it. While, its contact with women that queers men. And that is why all masculine cultures abhor this contact, apart from what is needed for procreation.
So, gender has a connection with sexuality (although not so strict), but its exactly the opposite of what is portrayed in the west.
We have come a long way from our natural manhood -- from how it occurs in nature and what the unnatural, western society has made of it -- totally opposite.
Sunday, June 28, 2009
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