1. Because the heterosexual society is not interested in controlling female sexuality. It wants to give women as much freedom as possible. It wants females to use their sexuality as a power to gain social control over men, and lesbian only adds to it.
2. Because, masculinity in females is not really stigmatised, especially in a heterosexual society its encouraged.
3. Because, women are not really bannished from the women's space the way men are banished into the gay space. There is no history or tradition of women been banished from the women's space, the way it is for men. The third sex space has been abolished even for females who are actually third gender (i.e. masculine women of whatever sexuality), so there's no question of real (feminine) women being isolated and banished wrongly into the third sex space, as masculine men are when they show interest in males. So, that deep rooted fear is not there.
4. Womanhood is not politicised and manipulated. And there's no great value attached to womanhood, the way it is attached to manhood. Women don't have to pass gruesome 'womanhood' tests, the way men have to. You cannot lose 'womanhood' the way you can lose 'manhood'.
5. Child bearing and rearing is the basic drive of women and they don't have to be forced into it, so, the society doesn't have any mechanisms to force women to reproduce. Hence, there has been no such deep-rooted conspiracy against women, as there exists against men to break women from women, neither is bonds, sexual or otherwise as basic a drive for women as (sexual) bonding with men is for men.
6. The heterosexual society, spreads the misinformation, that while amongst men a sexual interest in other men is rare, and only occurs in 'different' (read queer) males, it is much more common and normal in women. In this way, its creating space for women to like other women, without losing their 'woman' identity.
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Is same-sex need more prominent and widespread amongst women?
Same-sex sexuality is neither so strong nor universal amongst women, but the Western society and its science insists it is.
In fact, if you look at what's going on in the society, 'lesbians' seem to be more committed to each other than 'gays'. They're often into strong bonds with each other, something which is almost totally missing in gays. No one has heard of a single suicide case amongst gays.
Does it mean that the Western society is right -- that the same-sex sexuality is stronger and more Universal amongst women.
There are enough evidences from biology (wild life), history and contemporary societies to suggest that it is not so.
So, then why does it appear so. The reasons are the following:
1. The gays represent the third gender and the bonding instinct in the third gender has always been thought of as weak. They've been more into casual and promiscous sex. Innumerable ancient sacred texts talk about banning these gays or members of the third sex from their monastries etc. because of their promiscuity.
This trait is evident both in traditional societies, where men have some freedom to bond sexually and emotionally with each other, as well as in the modern West, where the gays are very strong and visible as a group. The Hijras in are another example of the promiscuity of the third gender.
However, the real man's sexual need for men exists suppressed and mutilated in the men's spaces. And history is witness (and so is wildlife) that the instinct to bond and fall in love and be committed to another man (and not just sex) is so strong amongst men that they are willing to die for each other. In modern day societies, men are oppressed and their souls no longer belong to them. Their souls are imprisioned and they are broken from their own nature. They cannot access it. Therefore, they are unable to act on their basic instinct of bonding with another man.
However, bonding between men is very masculine thing, which unfortunately has been driven out of the society.
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2) The Western heterosexual society, however has been increasingly giving space to women's sexual need for women. E.g. by doling out dubious researches that say that same-sex sexuality is stronger amongst women. Also, same-sex acts between women have been propagated as the stable of 'heterosexual' men, thus making it mandatory for men to say they like the stuff, in fact they have to compete to prove that they like the stuff.
Therefore, when the space is created and the stuff is blown out of proportion by science, entertainment and media, women also become more open to accept or talk about those feelings. However, it is still in such minority..... in the West.
Similarly, lesbians form stronger emotional bonds with each other, because unlike male third sex, female third sex is not so promisuous. Also, they don't have pressures of masculinity which breaks men from men, emotionally, so they have no conditioning as such.
In fact, if you look at what's going on in the society, 'lesbians' seem to be more committed to each other than 'gays'. They're often into strong bonds with each other, something which is almost totally missing in gays. No one has heard of a single suicide case amongst gays.
Does it mean that the Western society is right -- that the same-sex sexuality is stronger and more Universal amongst women.
There are enough evidences from biology (wild life), history and contemporary societies to suggest that it is not so.
So, then why does it appear so. The reasons are the following:
1. The gays represent the third gender and the bonding instinct in the third gender has always been thought of as weak. They've been more into casual and promiscous sex. Innumerable ancient sacred texts talk about banning these gays or members of the third sex from their monastries etc. because of their promiscuity.
This trait is evident both in traditional societies, where men have some freedom to bond sexually and emotionally with each other, as well as in the modern West, where the gays are very strong and visible as a group. The Hijras in are another example of the promiscuity of the third gender.
However, the real man's sexual need for men exists suppressed and mutilated in the men's spaces. And history is witness (and so is wildlife) that the instinct to bond and fall in love and be committed to another man (and not just sex) is so strong amongst men that they are willing to die for each other. In modern day societies, men are oppressed and their souls no longer belong to them. Their souls are imprisioned and they are broken from their own nature. They cannot access it. Therefore, they are unable to act on their basic instinct of bonding with another man.
However, bonding between men is very masculine thing, which unfortunately has been driven out of the society.
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2) The Western heterosexual society, however has been increasingly giving space to women's sexual need for women. E.g. by doling out dubious researches that say that same-sex sexuality is stronger amongst women. Also, same-sex acts between women have been propagated as the stable of 'heterosexual' men, thus making it mandatory for men to say they like the stuff, in fact they have to compete to prove that they like the stuff.
Therefore, when the space is created and the stuff is blown out of proportion by science, entertainment and media, women also become more open to accept or talk about those feelings. However, it is still in such minority..... in the West.
Similarly, lesbians form stronger emotional bonds with each other, because unlike male third sex, female third sex is not so promisuous. Also, they don't have pressures of masculinity which breaks men from men, emotionally, so they have no conditioning as such.
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